La Vida Monótona de Drazen Evilla

Finding and Losing Love

Drazen A. Evilla

Love is not easy to find, even more it’s not easy to lose. Love is the most powerful force in the universe. It is the main ingredient that motivates one individual to live. Without love, life is meaningless. Most significantly, it is through love that we will discover the real purpose of why we live in this world. Yet, love is not easy to handle. It is not a game to play, and one should be careful about it. For sometimes, love can be deceiving, if it is not real. Thus, we should really be careful when we fall in love.

Some people find love, and still some more find it unexpectedly. At the moment they were still searching for it, they keep on hoping that one day they will find the person who will make them feel being loved, will make them feel important, and will make them happy all their life. It wouldn’t matter how many years it would take them to find it, as long as when they finally found who they were looking for, it would finally bring color to their lives. My friend once told me, “As long as there is love, there still has hope.” I agreed with those words. As long as you are inspired by love, you can have all the reasons to live! Once we find love, we try to develop it so we will not lose it. We do everything to make the ‘other half’ contented of having us as their partner. We give them our time and efforts to make them feel important. If you don’t give time to that person, then you don’t truly love him/her at all. There is also the concept of infatuation. Infatuation is a foolish and usually extravagant passion or love or admiration. It is temporary and short-lived. That is why some individuals come to realize in the end that they are not happy with their partners at all, thus resulting to a breakup. Therefore, once we found someone whom we admire, we should make sure that it is love that we actually feel and not just an infatuation, so that we can be guaranteed with a lasting relationship. Moreover, there are also some who wait for the right time to love instead of looking for it, because they are afraid to feel the pain that it might brought them, and that it may, in one way or another, affect their lives. But of course, TRUE LOVE WAITS. If you are willing to wait, for sure God will one day reveal to you the person who will love you for the rest of your life!

On the contrary, some people lose their love. In a single moment, everything becomes shattered glass. Love can bring us to the most painful situation in life. It is definitely not easy to lose the love that once had revolved around the lives of two beings. When you lose it, it is possible to bring it back, if what you really feel for each other is true. There are people who turn bitter when they lost the love they had, because for some time in their lives, it gave them the reason to live and to be happy, but when love is no more, for them it’s as if the world had stop turning, and their lives get affected with pain and desolation. However, we should not forget that there are still others whom we could count on in times of bitterness and pain; those people who love and care for us. Unfortunately, too much love can kill you. That is why some people commit suicide because of lost love. They lose the idea that one should not center all their love for one person alone, but with others as well. They forgot that other people loves them too - their family, their friends, and most importantly, God. Losing the one we love is not easy to accept, and it may take us a specific period of time to get over with it. It may take months or even years, for we think that it was everything we have. Nevertheless, it is irrevocable indeed, that love is everything. When we lose the one we love, we should bear in mind that that it is not yet dead end, instead we should keep moving on, for life is offering you thousands of reasons to smile about, and that someday, you would finally love again. Who knows, while you’re walking in a crowded street, maybe you’ll get bump on with the person you’ll be spending you whole life with!

In life, there is a time for us to love and a time to let go of love. We get inspired and motivated when we find love. But then, we get hurt and sometimes turn bitter when we lose love. Perhaps, we should learn to be brave enough to embrace the consequences that we may experience when we are in love. After all, whatever happens, the greatest love of all is the one we need not to look for or be afraid that we will lose; for the greatest love of all is the one we will only recognize, when we look up above!